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You’re using Tinder wrong – experts reveal the WORST ways to start a chat

FIRST impressions are everything and that has never been truer than in dating.

How do you let someone know you’re interested without seeming too enthusiastic, too cheesy, or just a little bored?


First impressions are everythingCredit: Getty

It’s a tough balance to strike, but dating experts have shared with The Sun how you should and shouldn’t start your dating chat, whether on Tinder or elsewhere.

Don’t start with ‘Hello’

‘Hello’ is too generic, like Match’s Dating expert Hayley Quinn explains.

“Remember that if multiple people have sent the same message as you, it will most likely be buried in your inbox and you won’t get a response,” he said.

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Tina Wilson, founder of dating app Wingman, says ‘Hey’ is just as bad.

“This is called ‘hey-ter,’ and our Wingman statistics show that online daters tend to ignore someone who tries to start a conversation with this simple but overused word,” he explained.

Comment something on a person’s profile.

Mentioning something unique from the person’s profile is a good way to start a chat.

“This shows that you’ve paid attention and are willing to put yourself out there, which is an attractive personality trait for anyone looking to find commitment and love,” added Hayley.

Be careful not to overdo it

Going too fast and heavy with praise doesn’t make the best impression either.

“If you overcompliment without connecting with someone first, they may feel like your compliments are insincere,” explains Hayley.

“Instead of complimenting someone on their looks, the way to present yourself as a true Guardian is to listen to someone’s responses and compliment their personality.”

No cheesy conversation lines

Just no.

According to the language experts at Babbel, the worst to come out of the UK includes:

  • I should be complaining to Spotify about not being named this week’s hottest single.
  • I’d like to take you to the movies, but they won’t let you bring your own snacks.
  • Do you know what my shirt is made of? Relationship matter.

Don’t make inappropriate comments.

“Don’t be gross,” explains clinical sexologist Katie Lasson.

“Don’t start a conversation by making inappropriate comments about people’s bodies or physical characteristics.

“It’s okay to compliment her eyes, hair, or smile.”

and don’t lie

Lying is never good, and pretending to be something you are not is not a good start either.

“Never start a conversation by lying,” adds Katie.

“Don’t say you like something if you don’t.

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“Be open, honest and your true authentic self.

“People are not stupid and will eventually realize that you are lying.”

Tinder is one of the most popular dating apps.


Tinder is one of the most popular dating apps.Credit: Alamy

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